![]() ![]() When they finally find one that pleases them, they risk placing too much emphasis on what was listed on the resume instead of actually getting to know the person. However, the focus on long and detailed shidduch resumes risks turning dating into a hiring process, as singles wait for the perfect resume to drop into their laps. Of course, there is nothing wrong with wanting to know a bit about a person before going on a date with them. And with no Lady Whistledown to unearth the hidden secrets, fathers and mothers pressure shadchanim (matchmakers) and rabbis to give them the latest scoop so they can find the perfect match, no matter how uncomfortable the question. They are often multiple pages long and include age, height, educational background, parental information (occupations, education, etc.), sibling lists, hobbies and, in some cases, third-party references, among many other details. These resumes can sometimes serve more as intelligence briefings than quick profiles one would find on an online dating app. If not, they move on to the next paper in the pile. Singles are presented with these resumes and, if they like what they see, they take a chance with a first date. Knowledge is also at the center of this community, taking the form of shidduch (matchmaking) resumes, documents that provide “ basic information about a single,” to quote. If that sounds familiar, it’s because it is very reminiscent of the Jewish dating scene in the Orthodox world. Even the larger community gets involved, with everyone from the lowly cook to the queen herself desperate to hear the latest buzz regarding the city’s most eligible bachelors and debutantes. Has he spent time traveling? What’s her father like? Do they come from a good family? Information that parents can’t find is provided by Lady Whistledown, an anonymous gossip columnist whose stroke of the quill can ruin a family’s reputation. Mothers and fathers spend hours discussing possible matches, putting together dossiers of intel about each individual single, leaving no stone unturned. Set in Regency-era London at the height of the marriage season, it follows the young women and men looking for romance and love as they become the talk of the town, whether they like it or not. ![]() Regardless of intent, Simon does not get to name his experience or his own the feelings of betrayal that it created as the plot leads to him learning to change his mind about children for the sake of Daphne getting what she wants.Gossip and knowledge are at the center of Bridgerton, Netflix’s successful period drama, which returns for Season 2 on March 25. It could have been written out of the plot entirely, but instead it was rewritten to this. So, why doesn’t Bridgerton acknowledge this as sexual violence? Knowing what the scene had been adapted from in the novel, it’s likely that Bridgerton’s writers knew they were dealing with a nonconsensual situation. This seems a bit ironic because Bridgerton is frequently concerned with Daphne’s ability to consent to situations in her life, but it doesn’t extend the same sentiment to Simon in this moment. At times, it feels like we are even made to side with her in this situation, as if her taking control over Simon in this way is actually an act of women’s empowerment in a time period where Daphne has little power over her life. However, the show seems to all but gloss over Simon’s pain in favor of Daphne’s entitlement. Does this mean that Daphne has a right to violate Simon to get what she wants? Absolutely not. Could they have communicated better on their desires about children? Yes. She doesn’t stop what she is doing and continues with a knowing look on her face until he finishes a moment later.ĭaphne justifies her violence against Simon with his own dishonesty about not wanting children. We can see the fear in his eyes as he tells Daphne to “wait”. ![]() When he realizes he is close to ejaculating, he tries to get Daphne to move or stop, but she doesn’t. The show adapts this moment so that Simon is awake, sober, and consenting to sex until Daphne becomes forceful. ![]() In the original version of the story, Daphne has sex with Simon with the same attempt to become pregnant while he is passed out from intoxication. The show is based on a series of romance novels by Julia Quinn published between 2000-2013. The next time they have sex, Daphne positions herself on top of Simon and forces him not to pull out in an attempt to become pregnant against his wishes. Late into the season, Daphne learns the truth of how pregnancy happens from her handmaid. Simon has told her that he “can’t” have children (rather than “won’t”) and relies on the pull-out method when they have sex, an act that goes unexplained to Daphne. ![]()
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